Firsts can be scary. Today was the first time I had to send one of my kids to have surgery. This morning my oldest had tubes put in his ears. Even though it was a short in and out procedure, it was so tough on this momma’s heart. Tears, tears, and more tears when I watched them put him under. Whew, emotions I’ve never felt before!
Thankfully everything went smoothly and he’s recovering and will be back to himself in no time.
No matter what season of motherhood we’re in, we’re constantly going through “firsts.” It doesn’t matter how old our kids are. There’s always something new to experience and adapt to.
I don’t know what firsts you’ve gone through lately or are about to go through. Maybe you’re pregnant and experiencing all the ways your body and heart change through the process of growing your little one. Maybe you’re a new mom, in the early infant days settling into your new role, feeling a little awkward as you learn how to breastfeed and juggle everything else in the newborn stage. Maybe soon you’ll be dropping your baby off at daycare for the first time. Maybe you’re navigating the terrible twos for the first time, at your wits end not sure what to try next.
Maybe you’re about to add another child to your family, and it makes you nervous how your world is about to change yet again. Maybe you’re sending your little love to school for the first time and the thought of sending them out into the world is absolutely terrifying. Maybe you have teenagers who are spreading their wings with more independence than you’re ready for. Maybe your baby’s going off to college and you’re about to experience life as an empty nester. Maybe your son or daughter got married this summer and your role in their life will forever change. Maybe you welcomed your first grandchild and you want to be just the right amount of involved without being overwhelming.
Whatever it is that you’re going through for the first time, will you remember to give yourself grace? Don’t feel silly for the emotions you’re experiencing. Take time to truly absorb what’s going on around you, and don’t feel like you have to rush the transition. Move at your own pace and know that you WILL get through it and will be stronger when you get to the other side. In many instances, those emotion filled firsts will beautifully become your new normal.
You have so much to offer whatever stage you’re in. You are a blessing to your family, even during the “firsts” when you don’t have it all figured out. You are amazing, and you CAN do it!
Hugs, hugs, and more hugs to you, friends!
XOXO,
Amber
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Funny you share this today. Just sent Josie for her first day of school! Only 2 hallways away, but what a strange feeling taking my ‘baby’ to school!!
Praying for a fast recovery for your little man! You’re right, there are constant firsts as parents and while some are very scary some are exciting too. Today was the first day of preschool for my little guy and I’m not sure who was more excited him or me! Also bittersweet though but definitely a first I’ll always remember!
You have such a gift for writing and thank you for sharing it with all of us. This is exactly what I needed to hear today, as I am preparing ME for sending my son to Kindergarten in less than 2 weeks. I am more emotional and afraid than I ever thought, and you remind me it is OK to feel what I am feeling. Thank you. Great to hear your sons surgery was great and you are there to hold his hand 🙂
You’re such a blessing to me. I hope we have the chance to meet someday!
MY son is 22 months {tomorrow} and he is really getting the hang of words. Most days I LOVE that we can communicate- but I found myself bawling the other day because I realize how fast he is growing, and how much I adore his baby babble. One day he will talk to me in full sentences! I am hanging on to these babble days, even though it can be frustrating for both of us when we can’t figure out what he wants!